Happiness is the one thing all of us strive to achieve in our lifetime. But how many of us achieve this goal? We spend our lives trying to achieve goals we believe will bring happiness; a great job, marriage, children, a big house, a dream car. We look to outer stimulus to make us happy.
What if we truly made a conscious choice to be happy? Most people would tell you that would be wonderful, but circumstances happen that clearly are out of their control.
I recently called a friend recovering from surgery. She was complaining about already being bored after only 2 days and she cannot return to work for 3 weeks. I asked her if she had control over her happiness and her response was she partially had control as life’s circumstances do get in the way. I just finished reading a chapter regarding unconditional happiness in the book “ The untethered soul” by Michael Singer. I went on to explain the theory that we do have total control of being happy by merely making the choice to be happy. Michael further states in his book: “If you want to be happy, you have to let go of the part of you that wants to create melodrama.” I explained to my friend, that you could continue to look at your time home as boring or you could change your mindset and see it as an opportunity to take time to do some things you enjoy doing.
When we truly choose to be happy each day in the circumstance we find ourselves something magical happens. We find our inner energy and our heart becomes open to everything around us. We become grateful for what we have and stop focusing on what we don’t have. We start focusing on the spiritual part of ourselves instead of the physical human part of ourselves. Oprah Winfrey said, “We are spiritual beings having a human experience instead of human beings have a spiritual experience. When we focus on our spiritual self we start to find peace and with peace comes happiness.
Things are going to happen and you are going to feel the tendency to close. But you always have the choice to either go with the situation or let it go. It is always your choice. The next time you have to sit in traffic decide to take the time to listen to music you enjoy. If someone cuts you off, rather than get angry, just let it go. When you feel your prayer was not answered, remember all prayers are answered, but sometimes the answer is no. Rather than feel the prayer was unanswered open your heart and ask yourself why would the answer be no and what lesson is there to be learned.
I prayed God would not take my husband, but that was not to be. By opening my heart and choosing to be happy my life and my inner soul took a positive turn. Had this terrible experience not happened I would never have learned the lessons I have learned. I will always be a work in progress, but now I make a decision to enjoy my life each day no matter what the experience. I try to see the best in those around me. Am I perfect each day? Absolutely not, but that does not stop me from trying to live my best life each day and fulfill my journey.
Being happy is totally in your control if you choose not to put any conditions on being happy. Try it! What do you have to lose?