I just read a small excerpt by Mindy Kaling where she states; “Before you can say ‘I love you,’ you need to be able to say ‘I’. Think about how true this statement really is. When I look back at all my relationships, platonic, romantic and professional, all are required to have people be able to stand in their ‘I.’
What this has come to mean for me is you cannot have a truly healthy, interactive and fulfilling relationship until you have this relationship with yourself. You need to be able to spend time, quietly, to determine who you are and what you stand for. I often shared with other widows there is a difference in being alone and being lonely. One can be lonely in a room full of people and one can be totally content and satisfied while being alone. I have always enjoyed my own company.
When I was younger I thought I knew myself pretty well. Now that I am older I now realize I needed to heal a few scars to allow my true self emerge. I am still a work in progress and I believe we continue to grow and learn until the day we die. When I met my husband I now realize I was not standing truly in my ‘I.’ After he passed and I was forced to deal with emotions I had buried I started to realize what it meant to truly love and respect myself enough to know there was a better life waiting for me. Once I met George I was able to open my full heart and to trust him. I have never loved as deeply and I count my blessings for the lessons I have learned and continue to learn to this day.
In closing, you must love yourself before you can truly give yourself to any other person. You must be confident in who you are before you can successfully interact with those around you. Do you Stand in your ‘I’…